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| selfie, merely old in an antique store |
I read a blog (
happy-homemaker-monday) today, that has a link party with questions to answer. I
find it very interesting to peak into someone's life. It feels good to share goals and not be alone... I started to
answer some of them for myself, and although I linked up, my post
is not like the others, I wanted to share my thoughts today.
The weather here right now
It was on it's way to being perfect but looks like it's back into the
90's this week and dry. I thought it would be dry enough here to stop
mosquito growth but we've had enough to torment us in the back porch
this summer. I do not like heat although I love being outside on the
porch. There is something putting out pollen too, and we're all
congested. Still it's been very pleasant to be out, and sunny skies are
cheerful.
Things that make me happy:
having a free day ahead of me. I love Mondays actually, getting back
into being in the house alone, still sorting and putting things away
from the move. I realized I quite like doing laundry now that the washer
is upstairs. Dirty things go in, clean soft things come out. Folding
and sorting make me feel like I have some control over the things in the
house.
Book I'm reading:
I
am quite a slow reader and read my novel in bed at night. I only read a
couple chapters before falling asleep. I'm trying to finish Whispers of
Warning by
because it's overdue at the library!
During the day, I'm looking through/reading/enjoying my saved old
magazines. I ordered a lot of subscriptions when they were on special
price and couldn't keep up with them. Then we moved, so I packed them up
to bring with and enjoy here. I love magazines with all the glossy
pictures and suggestions as to how to live a great life! It feels good
to look through them on the back porch while Milo plays, and then put
them in recycling to lighten the load of things to do.
What's on my TV today:
I might watch the dvd of a comedy, checked out from the library. I watch
a couple episodes during lunch but find I don't watch as much TV here
in CO.

Very funny! Tonight however, I'm watching the finale of Bachelor in
Paradise... a secret vice. I can't help myself, it's fun to watch and I
talk back to them. I'm like that show, "people's couch" where groups
watch shows and talk through them making snarky comments. It used to be
on Bravo.
On the menu for dinner:
who knows. If they made people chow, I'd have it.
What's on my To-Do list
It's so long, and would bore you. Mundane things, big things
that won't get done, everyday things like unload the dishwasher (so I
can check something off)
I need to face calling the moving company repair guy to fix two broken
items that are very special. I need to do laundry, and call the
consignment shop back in MD, and vacuum. I really need to try to clean
hardwater minerals off the shower door, but since I'm allergic to
chemicals and the cleaner is a commercial one I'm nervous.
I need to finish unpacking the studio which is a massive job because
every item must be examined and placed somewhere new and possibly be let
go as no longer needed.
I would love to clear off the dining room table but that's where the
magazines are living. If they get put away we'll never go through them!
I need to do something about my fingernails as they are all breaking, and the polish is half off.
Small and big, some keep me up at night, some are do-able.
What's in your craft basket
Since crafts are a big part of life for me, the house is my craft basket!
I'd love to stop everything this week and paint or sketch something. Maybe I'll squeeze that in.
I created a design wall (pictures on this post
moveable-design-wall.) so hopefully will sew soon
What are you looking forward to this week?
Finally getting control over my life.
Bwaaahahahahahaha!
No biggie, just keeping my head above water, remembering to water the
plants, writing the great American novel, curing diseases. (I watched
Miss America Pageant last night)
Actually, to be honest, I'd love to just stop hurting. My back is a
source of nearly constant pain. I haven't had a good pain management
person since I had to leave my wonderful PT in MD and was made worse by
the person I saw here. Chronic pain is depressing.
Tips and tricks
are you kidding me?
Well, in those old magazines I saw a lot of crazy decorating
suggestions. I also kept a recipe for piccadillo meatballs I can make
with turkey. I grew up in Tampa Fl. eating Cuban food, and piccadillo is
so good, but I'm allergic to beef so seeing this recipe made me almost
want to cook again.
I am always inventing something around here, and came up with a brilliant hack for sewing items, but that's for later.
Lesson learned the past few days
Not a new lesson, but I was reminded this weekend to talk to people. And listen to people.
It would be so easy to walk past with no interaction, or to answer "can I
help you with anything" by saying, " just looking" but then you miss
the connections between people. I am able to do small talk with the best
of them. I can interview people easily as I am interested in people.
But lately I am just more... real... with strangers.
While visiting another town recently, I had three fabulous interactions
with strangers. On each interaction we talked about real life issues,
laughed together, shared concerns together, and got a glimpse of who that
person is. One can even learn more about themselves while talking to others.
The first person had a beautiful chubby black lab with her as they had
just finished a four mile hike. We initially spoke because our dogs
mingled, but I have learned if you say one little thing about your real
life, or ask one real question, people often want to share. The ones who
don't, just move on.
Their loss.
We chatted outside the visitor's center in a mountain town for about 15
min. She was funny and open, and pissed off about all the changes she's
seen to her town during her lifetime. She appeared to be in her late
40's or possibly older, but a bit younger than I am. She liked her town the way it was as she grew
up. Quiet, few newcomers, odd old hippie types, unspoiled.
Poor woman wanting to stop time. I can imagine the generation before
hers wanted her generation to stop messing up "their" town too. But I get it.
She doesn't like the influx of people in the last 10 years. She waved
her arm toward what looked like nothing unique or special to me, and
said look at all that! It wasn't here! I looked and didn't see anything
unusual. A road, a safeway grocery store, a mountainside with rocks.
She wanted the snows to pile up this winter to chase off all the people
who moved to her area. Snow like they used to have before the climate warmed up so much.
She was a bit peeved to find out we moved here. DH said, it's zero
sum... the owners of our house moved out of state, we moved in.
She shrugged but ... would not be appeased. She didn't like the changes she saw.
I hear you, sister, I don't like most regulations that choose making
profits at the expense of clean air and water. I would rather there be
an emphasis on human rights and acceptance. So, I related to her
discontent. I listened to her, and heard her. We left the exchange
knowing each other better. I was intrigued by the fact that she seemed reluctant to say goodbye.
The next meaningful exchange took place outside an antique store. A
woman sat at an outside table, and my husband and dog joined her while I
looked inside. When Milo called me out (so I didn't get lost in the
store), the woman and I had a wonderful exchange. She was open, and real,
I asked leading questions that gave me a snapshot of her life. She and her husband were of retirement age, and lived in a state south and west of us.
She was holding a wooden saddle of sorts. I asked about it, and she said
she and her husband collect old mining items. We had a lively
discussion about that and her home that has become a repository of those
items. I asked if she had to charge people to come see, just to cover
costs and she snorted, we don't show anyone! We don't even want people
to know what we have!
I asked what started her interest in collecting those items. I think
people's collections tell you so much about them, don't you? That led to
her telling me about her husband's life, and work, etc. I told her of
my collections, flamingos (from Florida upbringing), cows, poodle
things from the 50's, and quilts.
We discussed quilting, and blogging, and laughed together, our husbands
joined us and we all had fun for the 20 minutes we stood sharing our
worlds. I felt I knew her by then, and she took info on my blog to
follow up. I loved one of her final comments, basically.
"what's the deal with people who have nothing in their homes? Not a
magazine, no knitting, no teacup display, nothing" she asked, then added
"how empty not to collect anything! How boring! I love my stuff!!!"
Me too sister! We were united in our collecting, and interest in life!
The third meaningful encounter was suggested by her as it turns out. She
said, have you been to the history museum up the street? Not yet but we
went in because she said it was lovely.
It looked like the other wonderful buildings on the main street, most built around 1880, deep
doorways probably needed back when there was snow all winter, and all
those architectural details to love from late 1800's to 1901.
We were met at the door by a woman I had seen earlier in the day walking
through town. She caught my eye, as she was wearing a cool bedazzled
black cowboy hat, and wonderful boots, and well, she caught my eye
probably because of her spirit. Some people do that... they quietly
exude an aura that catches your eye.
She was open, and welcomed us in with historical info as if she'd known
us all her life. She wasn't from here, but she loves history. I love history.
During the next half hour, I grew to know her on a deep level as we
shared real life discussions. We talked of history, we talked of
antiques, and houses and old ice boxes, and after my husband left to
walk Milo, she made a comment about a real life issue she survived.
Instantly I decided I could trust her, and we virtually took a look into
each other's eyes and made a mutual decision to go deeper.
It takes two, both people willing to be real, and open a door, risk
being misunderstood or judged but suspecting they'll find understanding.
The older I get the more I risk in that way. I've learned how to handle
things like rejection better. I have a strong desire to cut through
bullshit and see people.
We had much in common on one level, and differences on another. We are about the same age,
shared many of the same trials and tribulations growing up. We were both
survivors of life and both strong because of it. She grew up in NM, and
is from a different cultural background than I, she rides motorcycles
and worked in the mines, she is a comedian on the weekends, and has a
different sexual orientation than I do.
We are different but the same.
Yes, the same. I risked being open about my life, and she went there
with me instantly, and we knew each other. She is my sister in spirit. I
am richer today because we talked. I saw her. I heard her. She saw me,
and heard me. I was not alone.
Likely we'll never see each other again, but this was an important
meeting. It taught me that risk is not about jumping out of a plane,
it's about saying who you really are and dealing with the possibility
that the other person won't accept that. It's about a connection that
has nothing to do with a handshake or even the words shared. It's
something deeper, more spiritual, something unseen but vital.
DH and I left the town with mixed feelings. Our first encounter was someone
pulling out of a parking spot and almost hitting us. DH tapped the horn,
and the person called us assholes for that. I started laughing through
my open window at the absurdity, an old woman with no teeth, nearly hitting us
because she owned the world, then verbally attacking us for trying to
protect our property? really? No "sorry" with an embarrassed shrug?
Next many stores said, no dogs allowed. No
reason, just not allowed. I always wonder about how much they lose to
children careening through breaking stuff. Okay, no problem, we won't
shop or buy things there, someone else will. We miss Annapolis.
We were on a mission to learn about the area though, and experience our new
state, so we continued on looking for friendly faces and experiences to
turn the day around.
We were happy to find them in our three encounters...
We didn't buy anything even in the antique store which by the way, was fine with
Milo coming in.
Milo is quiet and just wants to be secure with his
pack, after our big life change. Milo acknowledged the shop dog, and
stood by my legs the rest of the time.While there, I asked one of the shop workers
about the provenance of a set of salt and pepper shakers, possibly offensive to a section of the public because they painted to look like those old jockey statures.
The shop keeper answered, "they're old"
I said, well, it
is an antique store... but what do you know about them?
They were prominently displayed. It would have been an interesting
lesson for me, as well as interesting to know why he chose to sell them and
display them that way. But the discussion stopped there with, "they're
old"
One can be open, one can ask questions leading to interesting discussions but...
you can't win them all.